You Can’t Just Snap Out of Anxiety or Depression

Over the years, I have seen people close to me face anxiety and depression. Some spoke about it openly. Others stayed quiet, believing they just needed to “push through” or “snap out of it.” But I have learned something important: mental illness does not work that way.

Anxiety and depression are not signs of weakness. They are not about being overly dramatic or pessimistic. They are real medical conditions. And for someone living with them, even the smallest task can feel overwhelming — like walking uphill in a storm without an umbrella.

What surprised me the most was how invisible these struggles often are. I have seen people smile, work, and laugh like everything was fine — when inside, they were barely holding it together. Because it does not always “look” serious, others may not take it seriously. But that invisibility is exactly what makes it so isolating.

When someone is dealing with anxiety or depression, daily life becomes difficult. Getting out of bed, replying to a message, or leaving the house can feel impossible. Plans are cancelled. Calls go unanswered. And eventually, people stop reaching out — not because they do not care, but because they do not understand what is really going on.

I have seen how something as simple as a kind message or a quiet visit can make a real difference. You do not need to say the perfect thing. Just being there helps. Listening without judgment. Sitting together in silence. These small actions can mean more than you realize.

We also need to rethink how we talk about mental health. If someone had a broken bone, no one would tell them to walk it off. But people struggling with depression still hear things like “cheer up” or “just be positive.” These words, though often well-meaning, can make someone feel even more alone.

The truth is, anxiety and depression are not choices. No one chooses to feel this way. But kindness, patience, and support — those are choices we can all make.

If you or someone you care about is living with anxiety or depression, please remember: it is okay to talk about it. It is okay to ask for help. And it is okay not to be okay all the time.

Your presence might be the reason someone keeps going.